Where are the single guys in Marin? Play ball!


Donde esta los muchachos?   Letters from Seeking Singles

Dear Page Larkin. 

I went to the movie Friday afternoon and the room was filled with women. No, it wasn’t a chick flick. It was Avengers: Endgame.

I went to a Pinot Noir Wine tasting at Whole Foods, Wednesday night, and there were 75% single women and 25% couples.

Rick’s Wine Bar looks like a sorority party. I can’t bring myself to attend NASCAR or cigar bars.

Where are all the men?

I went to a trendy, cool, church…-Nope, all gray-haired ladies – pretty much. Next, I went to Bed Bath and Beyond on a Sunday – It was like a wedding shower- the aisles were filled with women, girls, ladies, shopping for linens and things. Next! 

Is it me, or is it Marin County? This is like living in the world of the Amazons.

By mistake, I went to San Rafael on a Friday Night. It was packed with 20 to 30-year-old Frat boys high-fiving one another and measuring virility/maturity by the number of Sake bombs they were throwing back.

Where are the big boys?

Optimistic, I walked around downtown Mill Valley one evening – after 8 PM – it was a like a ghost town. I ran into Mort Sahl. We talked Purple Onion.

Where do the guys go? From, Fresno to Frisco to Frustrated in Marin

Dear From Fresno to Frisco to Frustrated…

Brava- you have done due diligence – don’t give up. You’re right, guys are not in bookstores,  yoga classes, or cake decorating classes – they should be – that’s where women go. They are more apt to be at a dive bar ( Silver Peso) watching the game, ( 2AM Club) Goodman’s,  Home Depot, the Bike Store, Sweetwater…

A guy has got to eat… Of course, you will see them lingering in the aisles at Safeway, Trader Joe’s, Whole Foods, -you get the idea. Smile. Say, hey.

Here are two hot books filled with terrific insights on the Male Man of Marin

Love in 90 Days  by Dr Diane Kirschner – This is a fun read – chock-filled with great advice on the where and hows to meet another attractive single at 50 person. This book flew off the shelves when it first came out…it has some quirky and kooky ideas, I love the good Dr’s advice on becoming a Stud-finder.  Take a look – there are many viable, relevant tips on the Dating Pool – come on in, the water is fine. Sitting at home, alone, on your computer is strictly verboten.


Check out: Getting Naked Again: Dating, Romance, Sex, and Love When You’ve Been Divorced, Widowed, Dumped, or Distracted. Dr Judith Sills

Yes, the title is clunky and the content is cool, very cool. This book is  great resource on Dating at 50 and where to meet singles and what to do when you do…how to avoid duds, deadbeats and how to incorporate smart sexual strategies into your dating repertoire. One of the author’s mantra’s “Just say Yes” to every social event…be open, available and have fun out there.

Where the Guys are:

Tip of the day: Where the Boys are: Men go out to Breakfast. 


“There is a fine line between fishing and just standing on the shore like an idiot.”

Steven Wright

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2 Responses to Where are the single guys in Marin? Play ball!

  1. Karen Jablon says:

    Moving to Marin sometime this year to be near my daughter who just bought a house in Mill Valley. I’m recently divorced after 35 years of marriage! Any advice or comments on how to meet single men in Marin? Also hoping to just meet some friendly people, other single ladies looking to do fun things together. Does anyone out there know of any welcoming places or groups? “Mostly Marin” looks like a nice start! Karen

    • Pl says:

      Lucky you! A fresh start in a beautiful locale…
      Post Divorce – breathe. Take time for your SELF. Take it easy…moving is stressful and exhilarating…send me an email when you are settled. Read my blogs – Suddenly Single Page Larkin…New Chapters are the best.

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