Dear Page Larkin,
I recently met a man online; his photo was taken from afar and was a little grainy. Let’s call him John Miller. Apparently, he is very wealthy, has homes in a number of places. His kids are married and all work for him.
He is much older (70) and bragged loud and often about his accomplishments. I figured he was insecure ( flaccid?)
We met once at a dive bar – he said he had to be “discreet.” It was dark – he called it romantic – I called it creepy. I instantly noticed his
- Extreme present focus
- Levels of narcissism, (every sentence was “a brag”)
- Lack of trust i(n the waitress, the bartender, me)
- And, a whole lot of paranoia.
What do you think? Run or Remain?
Wanna B Wed
Dear Wanna B Wed,
I feel I have a “duty to warn” about any dangers he poses because of his psychological make-up. The characteristics you note are enough to get a man impeached, much less tossed off the island. Put on your Nike’s: Run – don’t walk. He is trouble.
Bragging about yourself violates norms of modesty and politeness – and if you were really competent, your work would speak for itself.