Jade: 48, divorced, two kids launched, decided to start looking for her ‘Date for Life.’ No more speed dating or coffee dates and buddies – she wanted a relationship.
One small drawback
She lives in a very, very, small town nestled in the redwoods in Northern California. A writer and an English major who loves the Pacific Northwest and the Arts, she subscribes to the New York Review of Books. Last year – a little lonely and fuelled by one too many espressos- she decided try the NYRB Personal ads.
For months, she had been amused and intrigued by the ads and – in a C’est le guerre kind of mood – she crafted a succinct and attractive ad.
$5.00 will buy you one word
She ponied up $150 for a well-crafted, 30-word ad and sat back. Who would respond? George in Brooklyn or Thomas in New Haven? JohnE-Be-Good in San Francisco?
The ad ran for one week and produced one, single, beguiling response from ‘Rusty Rings.’
Stranger than fiction? Quelle surprise: Rusty Rings lived 15 miles away! They met for the first time, they clicked, and have been together ever since. It happens.
Writing your Personal ads – avoid dangling your participles…
When you are paying a hefty $5 per word for a Personals Ad, one tends to choose their nouns carefully. On the other hand, if you are writing a Craigslist ad – free of charge – you might be a little less discreet about your word choice and message.
Here are samples of two recent NYRB Personal Ads (She wrote / He wrote)
Note: To be fair- both Ads are mildly edited for the sake of the singles.
COST: NYRB Personals – Hers: over $500.00
His: over $750.00
Hello, darling: Me: sexy, sophisticated striking natural beauty and completely real at the same time. Adventurous, curious; artist, low-key humanitarian, trailblazer. Fun loving, athletic. Slender, lean, really cute…unassuming playful smile. Nature, outdoors-lover. Appreciator of beauty, creativity, spontaneity, delights in exploration, I am Spicey hot! Love skiing, hiking, sailing, New England, photography, architecture. Great cook, great conversationalist …Crazy about making a difference, giving back… Seeking adventurous, verbal, secure, man, 45–59, values generosity, authenticity. Your pic gets mine. Your love gets mine
Color me: TALL, SLIM, late 50s, City Boy—More Ryan Reynolds meets Ed Norton than Tom Cruise meets Vin Diesel. Educated at Harvard and New Haven… working with non-profits and on Wall Street. Passionate about music and even played (around) in Carnegie Hall; enjoy: hiking, biking, yoga, tennis, art, spicy gourmet food and wine, and black-tie dinners …reading, stimulating conversation and cooking…my spicy tastes range from punk to ballroom…Attracted to young slim figures and dynamic personalities, reading, stimulating conversation and cooking. Love to travel and have lived abroad.. Looking for LTR and kids with a woman 20 years my junior who is spiritual-yet-grounded. Please send letter and photo to: Box 007
Both candidates have very long shopping lists of “Must have qualities” for their dream dates. Some would consider their Personal Ads somewhat ego-centric and vain – others might flock to such a well-spoken, confidant singles.
One would hope that Mr. Spiritual-but-grounded $750.00 Personal Ad – would find his 20 years younger, lithe, divorcee with kids. Sounds like he would be the ‘perfect daddy’ perhaps, a real sugar daddy.
And, Bravo to the singles who – every day – put it out there- who take a chance for romance.