You cannot sign up for an online dating site and just sit back and hope to deluged with emails, paeans, love letters and accolades.
You have to get in the game, Binkie.
Rule #1. Put time and energy into the pursuit. That means – every day – you sit down at your computer and open all the emails the dating company inundates you with – scan, read, toss. Repeat. Do read the profiles, review the “perfect matches” and be open to meeting new people.
Think of a football stadium with thousands of cheering fans. It really is a blur of faces, right? Well, truth be told – your virgin voyage on the high seas of Suddenly Single Again and Dating is like a football stadium and your goal is to get noticed. There are hundreds of singles – just like you- online.
At a televised football games – the cameraman is seeks out quirky, crazy, and cute people and photo ops. Yes, the Whack-a-delic guy-with no shirt and the colorful clown wig gets a lot of attention.
And, the guys who paint their bodies with Day-Glo paint get noticed. However, the friendly, animated, fan with the big smile, and the really enthusiastic, passionate fan get airtime, too.
You want airtime. Now.
Do not post a photo of you five, ten or 20 pounds ago. Skip the French Maid or Batman Halloween costume. What about the hilarious Christmas Sweater photo? Not so funny. Yes, all of the above get attention, however, it is the wrong kind of attention.
Your goal in the Dating Game: Follow Rule #1: Get in the game, reach out, be open to new people, and skip kinky and bizarre. Repeat,lather, rinse.
“The fool wanders, a wise man travels.” Thomas Fuller