Two simple rules to keep you cool as you begin writing your online profile. Rule #1. Your Dating Profile: Keep it Simple Whether you are on your virgin voyage – writing your first Match.com dating profile – or re-writing it for the tenth time, remember: Don’t tell all. Leave something up to the reader’s imagination. Coy and cute are far superior to cold, hard facts linked together like the proverbial shopping list. You may be very proud of your cool car, hot career, cats, kids, kayaking prowess, stamp collecting or church choir debut. Merely listing these attributes or accomplishments is dull times three.
Boast Not: And, yes, it’s great your kid just graduated from an Ivy League school – however, all that bragging about your offspring (a la Pimp My Kid) might just as well be mentioned later.
Each day, there is a new parade of hopeful romantics who sign up for Match, JDate, and eHarmony and Plenty of Fish. Note: your goal is to grab attention, quietly and quickly.You must be proactive and get in the game.
#2. Don’t try this at home
Remember: quirky isn’t cute; it’s been done and it’s a bore. The 2005 photograph of you dressed as a French maid or peeking over a Sally Rand fan may garner the wrong kind of attention. And, writing your profile – from your dog’s point of view – may have been funny for that sixth-grade assignment, but not at this juncture.
Do you have an urge to brag about your myriad accomplishments – medals, trophies, and downtown clubs? Hold off on that. Please delete any and all references to your Ex or your nightmare divorce. No one wants to hear about it. Seriously.
Be sure to check out the competition. Take the time to look at what other people your age are writing… some will inspire, others will bore, some may spark your attention. It’s called ‘Comparative shopping’ and it works. Take the time to write a thoughtful, succinct profile.
Bravo and Kudos to you! Congratulations for taking the first step and signing up for online dating. Three cheers for you. Remember to have fun as you navigate the waters of the dating pool. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Kick back, relax, and have the time of your life. Plan on laughing a lot.
“Men always want to be a woman’s first love – women like to be a man’s last romance.” Oscar Wilde