Uh oh, the ladies are leaving – big online dating Exodus

dead-44155__180Massive Exit: Girls 50+ say the playing field is not level.

 Exit Sign

There are approximately 2.5 million people in enrolled in online dating sites like Match.com, eHarmony, OKCupid, Tinder, Plenty of Fish, Chemistry, and Christian singles.com.

The dating sites are made up of 52 % men and 48% women. What are the odds? Who are the odds?

To tell the truth

Fact: More men lie about height and age than women. Women tend to erase a few pounds. Go figure…

More men set their sights on dating a younger companion. Ladies, generally tend to “Date their decade.” Truth be told, a lot of guys-all gaga with this new suddenly single chapter admit to thinking “This time around (post divorce and long marriage) I’m gonna get me a babe!” Really, Fred Mertz?

 Thou doth protest too much

Men over 50: aiming to appear youthful and virile, drown their online dating profiles in verbs.

 He likes to run, jump, jog, hike, climb, camp, spelunk, swing, hit, paddle, row, lift, toss, throw, thump, thwack, bounce and batter and he fishes in Montana and Mexico, sails, explores, plays tennis (both clay and table.) He skis, and he hoists himself by his own petard. It is exhausting to read a profile front-loaded with verbs.

 Nary is a word is written about intellectual, spiritual, or mind-body pursuits. These things are said to be to B-O-R-I-N-G – according to the six men interviewed for this column.

 Pretty women – a classic example After speaking to a dozen women, 50+, the one cogent take away from the Ladies- Who -Were-Leaving – was that of the men they were interested in, all were aspiring to date women 5- 10 years younger than themselves -a  new meaning for “passover.”

Carolyn, 61, retired, homeowner with a cabin Tahoe, yoga devotee and a century bike rider, lives in the Marina.

She is very pretty, accomplished, kind, and has a life rich with multiple interests, numerous friends, three great, adult, kids who are on their own and adore her and she knows no financial restraints.

She said she tried four different dating sites and came up empty each time.   Granted, she had  parameters. She wasn’t willing to drive more than an hour to meet somebody; she preferred to meet somebody with an education that matched hers; she had no interest in dating a recent widow or a person who was never married. Those are things that were important to her. What gives?

She felt adamant that if she listed her age as 59 she would have gotten a lot more attention, however, she wasn’t willing to start a relationship with a lie. She threw in the towel and is telling all her friends and acquaintances to keep an eye peeled for a Man of Interest for her. Smart move.

beach_locusts_7_8colMimi in So Florida lamented the fact that she is surrounded by seniors and snowbirds- and flocks of Canadians who come “for the season.” She felt certain that going online would be the key to success to romance. Not so much. She was just about to quit online dating and decided to stretch her geographical boundaries- and stated she was willing to date outside of Florida. In one week, she met Ricky in Alabama- also retired. He had been a produce manager at Publix, was a dedicated and kind grandfather, a good dancer, and available. They have been together three years.


The take away? Don’t give up too soon…. online dating is a numbers game. Don’t wink or send a canned greeting- respond to every person who sends you a note of any length- embrace the Golden rule- and have fun out there!

Wooden foot bridge in the woods.

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One Response to Uh oh, the ladies are leaving – big online dating Exodus

  1. Pl says:

    Reblogged this on Suddenly Single in Marin and commented:

    Leaving the Party?

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