Dating 101: How to begin a conversation? Ask a question?

red_door11“Judge a man by his questions rather than his answers.” Voltaire

Will you please ask me a question?

This week, more Online Dating/Women have commented that men forget to ask questions. Conversation buzz-kill is neglecting to ask a question.

Shirley-u-Jest said she gets 3-4 emails each day from men who write dead-end quips like:

  • Cool profile.
  • I like skiing, too
  • You are beautiful.
  • We both like chocolate.

How would you respond? You are beautiful, too?

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Gentlemen, Start Your Questions

Guys, too much heavy lifting is required to respond to your comment:  “I read that book.” Which book? What did you think? Did you like it? Who is your favorite writer?

Wink, wink, nudge, nudge?

Granted, four words in a note are a hundred times better than a “Wink” or a canned greeting like ”Hello, Beautiful.”

 The Take Away: If you want a woman to talk to you – ask questions. If you have no interest in ever connecting- make a statement and she wont respond. C’est fini.


There are four questions of value in life, Don Octavio. What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same. Only love.     Lord Byron


There are four questions of value online: Where did you grow up    Where did you go to school? How long have you lived here?  What’s your favorite fun thing to do on a sunny Saturday?  Page Larkin


Check out the Proust Questionnaire and  The Top 20 Questions to Break the Ice


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