The Date Watchers

let_them_eat cake_7There is a hot, new, group of single, 50-something women in Marin called “Date Watchers.”

We get together about once a week at the Champagne Bakery and weigh in on dating at this stage and this age. We discuss dating decorum and delusions as well as romance rites and wrongs.

We touch upon lofty subjects like how many calories in a sweet nothing? And more relevant queries like, who pays on the second date? We always “Google the guy.”

 Required reading this month was the classic by Greg Behrendt, “He’s Just Not That Into You”  a hard hitting, no-nonsense book we regard as our ‘bible,’ to a degree.

 We subscribe to the sage observations of Mother Teresa. And Mae West.

 Mother Teresa said: “If we want a love message to be heard, it has got to be sent out. To keep a lamp burning, we have to keep putting oil in it.”

Mae West said: “Too much of a good thing can be wonderful.” Pretty much, that is our mantra. 

We pondered age-old questions: If  men are hunters are women waiters? Nope. That ship has sailed. We’ve  concluded life is too short to wait for guy to call. Carpe diem,darlin.  We don’t have CCR’s however, we do have a code of ethics based on The Golden Rule.

There are about a half dozen women, at any given meeting, and we fall into three distinct categories. Roughly one half of the women have put their big toe into the Internet dating pool. Some are happy with just that much contact and others have dived into the deep end of the pool – hearts first. They are the true explorers and storytellers.

The third faction is made up of true “The Watchers” and they say they live vicariously through the stories of their daring and dating sisters.

Next Week: four of the girls are going to do Canon Balls into the deep end of the Dating Pool and also sign up on Look out, guys, here we come!

Another Mantra: “It is better to be looked over than overlooked.”  Mae West

 Some of our beliefs are predicated on the philosophy of Socrates and Camus happiness is fleeting kind of an idea – we like Gide and Sartre but prefer Nora Ephron and Billy Collins. A lot.

Who knows, you may see us on the Charlie Rose Show.


We laugh a lot.


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