“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” Mae West
Today, a half-million of us are hovering around 50, Suddenly Single again, and starting a new chapter – whether we are widowed, divorced, retired or just tired – with the kids finally launched…
Now is the time: Your Turn. Get ready to take time for you.
Just Do It?
After decades of caring for spouses, bosses, kids, clients, aging parents, volunteering and balancing – all of the above – now it’s your time. Don’t waste another day.
You want fries with that? What do you want?
Finding yourself Suddenly Single can be like the heavens opening, choirs of angels singing Leonard Cohen’s Hallelujah, a balloon drop, confetti falling and a cacophony of Veuve Cliquot champagne corks popping.
Others might have a more subdued reaction to finding themselves alone – again – fearing an Eleanor Rigby life.
Kids, try this at home:
Take a pen and paper; take moment to think, then write-down “The Top 10 Things I Want Right Now.”
Your “What I Want Right Now” List could include a nap, a lover, a dog or a ticket to Miami, Mexico, or Montréal.
Maybe you want an iPad, a standing/weekly movie date, banishing the grey and going Blonde, a Bunco group, a clean garage or a new pair of Mephistos or Manolo Blahniks. Perhaps you’ve always wanted to go to ‘Sweat Your Prayers’ in Sausalito on a Sunday or Friday night parties at the DeYoung, or to take beginner Tango lessons in Berkeley, or any classes at the Learning Annex. Do it.
Have you wondered where the Andy Goldsworthy art-pieces are in San Francisco are? Find them. Take a tour. Discover Dynamo Donuts, Evensong at Grace, Litquake, Bay to Breakers and volunteer someplace fun – like a film festival – not a church. Invite a friend to join you.
Read the San Francisco Chronicle Sunday Pink Section, the Pacific Sun and Johnny FunCheap’s list of events all over the Bay Area. Make a point to do something really fun every week. No holds barred.
Go outside – breathe- walk. Explore Marin County and San Francisco and all they have to offer,
Curious about online dating? Take a peek at OkCupid, OurTime, Chemistry.com or Match.com – it doesn’t hurt and no one knows you are looking…go ahead. If you want me to hold your hand…and walk you through the process – sign up for one-on-one coaching or one of my Page Larkin Workshops. Now is the time to have fun!
If you can dream it – you can write it – put it out there.
Helga D. mentioned to her neighbors, just in passing, she wanted a new bike and , bingo – they gave her an older Specialized bike they didn’t use. Brigid told her Pilates buddies she was finally ready to date…slowly and – girls being girls- suggested a guy or two-for her trial dating foray. When Anne P. was setting up her new newly divorced apartment – she had little or no furniture – Bob and Pam from her school were moving in together –had duplicates of everything and gave her a couch, table, and chairs. Kismet.
Tell your friends, family, neighbors, acquaintances what you are looking for – put it our there – and see what happens.
Then tell me: firstname.lastname@example.org
Mae West said: You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.