It looked like a grocery list…
- Loaf of bread.
- Half-gallon milk.
- Petite 5’2 – 5’6
- Long red hair.
- Tennis player
- Prefer vegetarian
- Mensa member
Grant – the Match.com “Handsome Bachelor” (60, divorced, bon vivant, triathlete ) fromLarkspur segued into his
“My Ideal Woman MUST HAVE” List:
- Must have a healthy and fit body which delights
- You must maintain loving relations with long term and close friends, and with your family.
- You must love children, you meet the challenges with aplomb, intelligence, humor, wisdom…
- You must be happy person, content with your own self.
- To Keep up with me You must have an active and fertile mind, a by now you must have resolved the key issues of your character and life.
- Financially secure
- Well read
- Well spoken
- Self Aware
- Prefer one who reads New Yorker and NYtimes and has a
- Predilection for high heels and miniskirts
This was followed by a swirl of clichés about little black dresses and glasses half -filled with something….
Grant called me – reported he had just created his “Dream Girl List “and gave it to me for comment.
And, I had a distinctive deja vu moment…
Earlier that day,I had been at a friend’s home and her eight-year-old daughter was ordering her first American Girl Doll. I quickly learned that this was an important rite of passage for little girls…
Eight-year-olds all over America swoon over the American Girl Doll. The marketing magic behind this creation is nothing short of brilliant. The magic?
For a mere $100.00+ a little girl is able to create the exact doll she dreams of – she can select the exact hair color, the eye color, and the complexion – to match her own skin tone, And then – ( for an additional charge ) there are the myriad choices of very cute, must have clothes – ka-ching!…. and <voila> instant gratification.
Hours later ,I reviewing Grant’s DREAM GIRL list – ironically, he, too, was looking for an American Doll…He insisted ‘his date’ must be his equal or better…
Good luck with that,pal.
Truth be Told
Speaking to Grant about his requirements, his so-called standards – I knew, when he grew tired of the blue eyed, blonde doll – he would probably aspire to the leggy red head with a propensity for Shakespeare, massage, Mensa, Latin, wisdom, Camus and double -crostics.
Is it necessary to make a “Must-have list?” Sure, if you throw in a dash of flexibility, a willingness to be open and to compromise.