Don’t try this at home
If you’re trying to decide which photograph to post for your online dating profile, think hard. There are some things one just doesn’t do – (i.e. No Selfies; don’t post a picture of you and your deceased spouse or ex-girlfriend.)
Paradoxically, in an age where online dating screams for “Truth in advertising” more and more people are hiding behind facades and faux paus.
Rule #1. Do not post a bizarre picture of you as
an attention-getting device
Top 10 Worst Online Profile Photos
- The “selfie” of you posing next to a Maserati – at the dealership. Contrived and shallow.
- You in a low-cut cocktail dress, peering over a martini.
- You wearing a teeny-weeny polka dot bikini (or Speedo) circa 1980. Historical. And, upon the first meeting – 20+ years later – a turn off.
- You holding a newborn baby. Really? Granny, is that the ‘I am interesting, single, fun and available.’ message you wish to convey?
- You in a group shot with people who are far more attractive than you.
- You bundled up in ski clothes, goggles and hat or with your back to the camera – wearing a hat and waders, fishing: what’s the point?
- You in a family reunion picture. Boring. Keep the focus on you.
- You in the professional photo from company brochures, websites and ads. Tres dull.
- You posed with your kids with the title: “My two best friends.” Uh, no.
- You with your arm around an attractive person who could be perceived as “a date.”
Have a friend – a smart friend with ‘an eye’ for putting you in a good light – take a couple dozen photos of you – inside and outdoors – in a few different, flattering outfits. Select the three best photos and post them. Update your photos- every few weeks – for more exposure and to keep in the game.
Update with a New Photo: When you are at a party, an event, a game -and looking fine – have someone take a picture of you. Heck, take six photographs and choose the best. There you have an Update! Smile!