Do people lie on their online dating profiles?

Smoking Hot or Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire?


Madison was a San Rafael  attorney with a reputation as a ball-buster who took a hiatus from the law to find a man. Her friends will tell you, she was both a smoker and house on fire. When she posted her virtual album of glamorous pictures on Eharmony, she checked the ‘non-smoker’ box. Her reasoning, “Once he meets me, he will be so in love with me, he won’t even notice I smoke.”

A few men sniffed around and left in a puff of smoke. After a plethora of dead-end dates, Madison met her match. She finally met and enchanted a man; he was  the CEO of a start-up gone public and they live happily ever after. It’s been six months. Whereas they won’t admit it, they both smoke.

To Lie or Not to Lie?  That is the Question.

Yes, Virginia -there really is some embellishing going on…

Rob says he’s tall, dark and handsome… and, he  is really a stout, 5’6.

Mimi says she’s 39 (read: 52)

Paul claims he is single – actually, he is separated, from his third wife, and is “testing” the dating waters.

Tammy says she works “in the arts” and you will find her at a famous ‘club’ on Broadway – wearing little more than a smile.

Ben writes that he is ‘a health nut’ – he neglects to say he is a strict gluten-free, raw-food-Vegan, a big fan of Fox News, who does naked yoga and exorcisms on week ends. He only wears the color purple and has 3 silver rings- in each ear. The photos he posts online are very fuzzy and taken from a distance.

Sylvie stated on her profile that her kids were “all grown up.” She didn’t think she needed to divulge that her three adult children lived with her and her four cats.

Your job in this new adventure in Dating Land? Ask questions and then ask more questions.

Some people waste a lot of time by  embellishing, enhancing or stretching the truth. Don’t bother. Remember, the truth will really set you free.

  • Accuracy is the twin brother of honesty; inaccuracy, of dishonesty. Nathaniel Hawthorne
  • Achievements on the golf course are not what matters, decency and honesty are what matter. Tiger Woods


San Francisco: a Dating Gold Mine  or rip-off?

Buyer Beware. You’ll need plenty of gold to sign up for one of the various high-rent dating companies. Whether you pay the exorbitant ($3000) to have dinner with six   strangers or ($2500) to go out to lunch.  Before whipping out the plastic – read the online reviews (Yelp) and decide if you get more disappointment or joy for thousands of dollars.

Be sure to check out various online dating companies before you commit to any dating sites.

Good luck and have fun out there.

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