Put me in, coach – Tips from Dating coaches


It couldn’t have happened to a nicer guy…

A good friend, Matt, is new to the Dating Whirl. Divorced for over two years,  he is still in that quasi-reclusive stage.

Perhaps the way he was treated by wacky judges and aggressive lawyers took the joie de vivre and the starch out of him.

Friends encouraged him to get ‘Out There’ and date.  They regaled him with so many successful dating  stories and, yet, he was hesitant to go beyond a second date. No, I  didn’t say second base.

Serendipity happens

Matt recently attended a Medical Equipment Sales Conference at the downtown Hilton.  He said the hotel was teeming with conventioneers.   On the first day, he noticed dozens of women, and a handful of men, flocking to a particular ballroom near his meeting room.  He said there were a ton of pink balloons and multiple  giant vases with red roses at the entrance to the ballroom where all the women seemed to be heading.

Impulsively, he joined  a “swarm” of fast-talking, fast-moving women and entered the  huge room with them. He deftly removed his name tag and folded his suit jacket over his arm and sat down.

The attractive woman next to him started chatting him up, not realizing she was sitting next to the King of Small Talk.  In no time he realized the sign:  WRD/LCC was at a Western Region Dating / Life Coach Convention. His first impulse was to dash – a major impostor, he might be discovered. Then, our hero decided  sit back, relax and thought,  “What a deal!”

Matt is an interesting guy.  He has enjoyed great success in his career and is a total Mid- West – never met a stranger- kind of a guy.

His 10 year marriage evaporated when his wife ran away with the pool boy – actually, with the guy who owned the Tri-State Pool Installation mega-corporation.

So, Matt, listened and became the totally intrigued interloper. He tells of  being fascinated by what he learned from the panel of optimistic and opinionated Dating Coaches. Ho took notes. He also handed out his business card and met “people” (aka single women.) 


One morning – two hours – a crash course in dating and he was launched  into the dating stratosphere. He stayed for the morning presentations and was dazzled by the flood of information about on-line dating.
And, there were single, attractive women everywhere. Kismet.Treat

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The Date Watchers are single, over 50 and open to romance

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Sweetsge570The cadre of divorced women hovering around 50, call themselves The Date Watchers.

They get together about once a week at the  Mill Valley Champagne Bakery and weigh in on dating.

Topics discussed include dating at 50+, dating debacles and fantasies as well as romance rites and wrongs. They discuss lofty subjects like how many calories in a sweet nothing?  Who pays on the second date? Is Ethics a game two people can play? They share flirting tips and success stories.

Required reading this month is Greg Behrendt’s “He’s Just Not That Into You” a hard hitting, no nonsense book – some regard as their ‘bible’. Most of them like the movie, too.

They subscribe to the sage observations of Mother Teresa. And Mae West.

Mother Teresa said: If we want a love message to be heard, it has got to be sent out. To keep a lamp burning, we…

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Skirting the issue? No Ugly Christmas Sweaters?

The invitation arrived the day before the neighborhood Christmas Party –  A classic invitation: Who, What, When, Where, and 

What not to Wear!

The heavy, paper stock, embossed invite read:

No Ugly Christmas Sweaters Allowed


...at this trendy Sausalito Party.

Unfortunately, I have a wide and wild assortment of eclectic Christmas sweaters from Peter Max, Ralph Lauren, Chloe, Kenzo, Burberry, and Bobbie Brooks.

I am rather famous for my collection.

In deference to the I-nvite…and armed with a glue gun, a bushel of Christmas bows from Costco, a stash of beautiful Christmas ribbon from The Ribboniere on Sacramento Street in San Francisco, I created a stunning Christmas Skirt for the event.

To say all eyes were on me – and that I was the talk of the town would be scandalous…yet, very accurate.


Whatever you may look like, marry a man your own age – as your beauty fades, so will his eyesight.
Phyllis Diller


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Mr Popular quits dating game – almost

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Tony, of six parties a week, would glide into a room to a sea of handshakes and a cyclone of air kisses. If you looked up the word bon vivant in the dictionary, Tony’s picture would be there: a tall, dark, handsome party boy.

Divorced for a dozen years he was on the party circuit. Heck, he was the party circuit. Jealously, his friends dubbed him, ‘Scout.’ In jest, women called him Casanova. Yes, there is an ounce of truth in all jest. At one time in his life, Tony was famously flirting and hot to trot; now, the only thinghaute he was after was cuisine.

Give Up the Chase?

After years of the hunt – catch and release -and after one too many first (second and last) dates– he decided to throw in the towel. (Not only did he throw in the towel, but also he laundered…

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My dream: I was on The Dating Game

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My Dating Game Nightmare I dreamed I was on The Dating Game and tall, dark, and handsome Jim Lange, was the host and I was “The Bachelorette.” I was wearing Hot Pants, tights,…

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Marin County vs San Francisco: a tale of two car washes

Worlds apart…

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The trash basket near the coffee-tea-water station was overflowing. What appeared to be a perfectly executed, neatly folded “To Do List” caught my eye.

The word “Errands” –written in the most exquisite Renaissance style –was followed by this list:

  • Drop-off donations – Casa de las Madres
  • Call list of restaurants for Food Runners: need new food/supply for shelter
  • Clean out DM’s closet – deliver all to St. Anthony on Mission Street
  • Church needs men’s socks and underwear-Sunday
  • Little Sisters of the Poor- volunteer on Tuesday afternoon
  • Attend Elder Abuse Workshop/Helen Karr- at Hotel Nikko Saturday 0800
  • Drs. Without Borders = donation= kickstart
  • See Nicholas Kristof article New York Times: girls + slavery
  • Check out Shebooks get on-board
  • Old towels and sheets sheets delivered to SPCA for puppies

Who was this generous, altruistic, person? Were there still saints roaming the planet? I kept that stunningly generous, errands list. I told…

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What does an online dating email scam look like? Here are two

Caution! Beware! Scammers are more prevalent and ruthless

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Gator20081017Everyone talks about the hustles, the hustlers, the gold-diggers on the                Top Online Dating Sites.

How can you tell if you are being hit up by a scoundrel scammer? Here are two big-time, small mind, classic Online Dating Scammers

His opening email will look just like this:

Hello dear,
How are you doing ? Wow! You look very beautiful, i really like what am seeing in you as a woman… I would like to communicate with you, kindly text me, (650) 434-7—-. or you feel free to email me ( randyvincent @ /y/a/h/o/o/. com ) I think i am capable to offer your heart desires. I have heard about so i gave it a trial but i will be glad to use this opportunity to meet someone that i can build friendship with and probably go from there. Thank you and i will…

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Who are you calling a Tart?

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Call me a flirt, call me a tart – don’t  call me late for Happy Hour

Nice girls were told not to be too forward. To play hard to get. Sweetheart, play that game and you’ll never meet anyone.Repeat my mantra:  Just say Hi!

Just say, “Good Morning”

They both commuted on the Sausalito ferry five days a week. Eventually, they would nod and say ‘hey’ to one another. One typical, foggy cold morning, they were both in line for coffee, and a conversation started. It was a herky-jerky conversation. It started, ended, a pregnant pause, and it started again. He admits he found himself very tongue-tied. She said she though he was “cute and clever.”

Eventually, they sat together, all the way to the City.

The Fickle Finger of Fate?

Turns out: they worked six blocks from one another.They had coffee again and began to make a habit of it. The morning…

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Will Date for Rental Unit?

Maggie moved to Marin three years ago.

Delighted to escape the no sun in the Sunset, she found the perfect Sausalito condo…. and settled in …and became a Marin-ite in no time. Her daily commute to the Presidio was a breeze.

As fate would have it: Things were good until they weren’t.

First, the owners turned the property over to a management company.

Everything about the property changed- little by little- the renters noticed lack of services.  The janitor was let go. The two handymen quit, one by one. Office hours were trimmed. On the weekends no one was on site.

The millionaire owners retreated to their homes in Napa and the apartments in San Francisco…never to be seen again.

However, Mr Owner was on the property once, and was besieged with questions about no security guard, break-ins and car thefts, no phone support or staff present after hours for problems (Fires, broken dishwashers, back up in bathtubs, no water, and the list goes on.) He was never seen again.

464F716A-4D8B-47E7-B0ED-A5077E9F1E6FRumors of rents skyrocketing

Soon, several women in the yoga class at a nearby gym realized they lived at the same  waterfront property. They compared notes and discussed the new landscape and management over tea and cookies. They vowed to look for a more professional and reliable living situation.

E044CEEA-A479-4F64-A479-A212CE002EF2New staff didn’t know the residents who had lived there for twenty years and were minor celebrities. Things changed.

Everything about the property changed. Notices of rent hikes were mailed to waves of neighbors…they compared notes…was a 10% hike legal? Maggie and the Two yoga ladies were all attorneys and so it began…they did massive research.

to be continued…




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Looking for love – at 50+ ?

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 Do you need a map, a compass, or GPS just to find

the on-ramp to the Bliss Highway of Life?

Here are Five Easy Ways to get ‘Back in the Dating  Saddle’  and ride off into sunset.

1. Ride On. There will always be a Greek chorus of friends and family urging you to get back on the horse. Ready to start dating, again? If you have images of a sweet pony ride dancing in your head, be prepared. The 2010 foray in dating is more like the electronic bull you remember from that John Travolta movie, Urban Cowboy. Best advice: “Better buckle up. It’s going to be a bumpy ride.”  Get in the game and enjoy the new adventures in the unique and novel Date World 2010.

2. Adopt and embrace the C’est la vie attitude. You know, life is short and why waste time? Refrain from…

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