Sects on the first date?
How far will you go: Nob Hill? Marin County?
Are your dates the same old song and déjà vu all over again? Are you bored by the same formula dating? Get creative. Try Sects in the City. Seriously.
San Francisco has been named #1 for both Best U.S. Vacations and Best Summer Vacations in U.S. News & World Report’s .
The City is a cutting edge, hotspot. However, if Pier 39 and Fisherman’s Wharf are not your idea of romantic destinations – get creative: get thee to a house of God; explore unique venues for chanting, singing, meditating, levitating, and gravitating.
The Top Five Places for a Not Holier Than Thou Date
- Grace Cathedral, Evensong – Thursdays 5:15pm-6:000pm. It took the enthusiasm of a surgeon from Kansas, at a cocktail party in Seattle, to get me to attend Evensong at Grace on Nob Hill. He raved about the unique, meditative experience of sitting in the sanctuary at the Cathedral listening to the cherubic voices of the Cathedral’s Men and Boys choir. Divine.
- Trinity Episcopal Church, Try Taize on Wednesday nights at 7:30pm at Trinity Church. I defy you to find a more incredible experience in a church on a Wednesday evening. You’ve seen the impressive, massive red doors at Trinity. Prepare to be even more impressed. The hour-long experience involves chanting, prayer, readings (Rumi, the Bible, Thoreau) rapturous voices and exquisite, romantic candlelight.
- Glide Memorial Church, Sundays 9:00am and 11:00am you’ve probably been meaning to go to Glide for years – There is no time like the present. Go Sunday– arrive early (30 minutes) Prepare to scour area for parking. Then sing, rock, and reverberate, pray.
- Congregation Emanu-El, - Stunningly beautiful Temple Emanu-El with a social and spiritual calendar that appeals to a vast cross- section of members and the rest of us. They have a dynamic rendition of a 20/30 Club, amazing lectures, events and yoga. Go, already.
- Green Gulch Farm, Get your Zen on in Marin County, Nourish your mind, body, spirit. Green Gulch is a short drive from the City and a world away. A Buddhist practice center in Japanese Soto Zen tradition. Honey, they have bee keeping, retreats, lectures, mindfulness and nothingness. A sublime getaway destination.
Most of us spend the first six days of each week sowing wild oats; then we go to church on Sunday and pray for a crop failure. Fred Allen
Some movie stars wear their sunglasses even in church. They’re afraid God might recognize them and ask for autographs. Fred Allen
single women..not so much
Ask 10 single women what they usually have for dinner and you’ll hear responses like:
- Fruit and Greek yogurt
- A bowl of soup
- A sweet potato- embellished with condiments
- An omelet
- A tossed green salad
- Something from Trader Joe’s
- An apple, cheese and crackers, and a glass of wine
Conversely, if you stand outside the gym at the JCC, Gold’s gym, or Trader Joe’s
(NOTE: a great way to meet guys) and ask a single guy what he’s planning for dinner that night you will hear:
- Meat, potatoes, and salad
- Mexican food or Chinese
- A Stouffer’s frozen lasagna, salad, and a bowl of ice cream
- Lamb chops, potatoes au gratin, green beans
- Chicken, corn, cheese, rice, beans, salsa and corn tortillas
- Barbecued something
- Piece of fish, green salad with all the fixings, a vegetable
- Something he picked up at Pasta Pomodoro, KFC, or BK, or McDonald’s
Dinner table conversations 101
As a result, men and women who live together must compromise all the time – well, at least every night- at dinner time.
if you are a quinoa, tofu, quasi vegetarian – who has very simple needs at dinnertime – and he’s a classic “Hungry Man,” Take note.
I can guarantee you, you and your new -roommate-for-life will have multiple conversations (a.k.a. debates) about shopping and prepping and cooking and calories and intake and setting the table, and cleaning up and… you get the idea.
Welcome to my world!
A dear reader just sent me a fabulous book- 41 pages of quinoa recipes- hallelujah!
Imagine the smell of the turkey roasting in the oven and the sight of luscious pumpkin pies and plump mincemeat pies sitting on the buffet. Cubes of yellow butter melting on mounds of steaming mashed potatoes. The dining room aglow with orange votive candles and a massive centerpiece of fall colored chrysanthemums gracing the table.
Dishes piled with green beans and sweet carrot soufflé, bowls of ruby red cranberries, and pomegranates and tangerines all crowded on the kitchen counter. A veritable food festival with friends and family –and, some ‘strangers in the night’.
Doug in Sacramento reveals he is ‘blessed’ with an Aunt-Can’t-Edit, who blurts unseemly comments and slightly embarrasses the entire family in one fell swooping comment.
Annie on Balboa Island writes that last year she was graced with, “A cast of cousins straight out of Central Casting, Seven Dwarves style: Grumpy, Dopey, Snarky, Chatty, Smokey, Sneezey, and Boozy”. Okay, kids, so Thanksgiving will never be a Norman Rockwell painting. Granted, for many of us it will be more like “The Scream.” Each year we are fortunate to gather, gobble and go.
Count your blessings.
Bring your current sweetheart home to meet the family? Tomes have been written about courage and bravery – you decide: will this exposure to your kin be a coup de grace or a potential triumph? Good luck.
The family… a strange little band of characters trudging through life… inflicting pain and kissing to heal it in the same instant, loving, laughing, defending, and trying to figure out the common thread that bound us all together. ~Erma Bombeck
Oh, Happy Day
Last year, six of us volunteered at three different soup kitchens and were turned away. There were too many volunteers. That’s what I’m talking about.
The Mad Dash of the Holidays is Here
I refuse to count the daze.
This year I’m going to float down the stream of Christmas consciousness and revel in friends, fun, simplicity and sanity. All aboard.
The Day after Thanksgiving and all through the house, not a creature was shopping- all were watching football, talking, laughing, reading, washing dishes – a meditation- walking, riding bikes, going to see Skyfall, or Argo or Lincoln- and avoiding getting mauled at any mall. Double dare you to Buy Nothing
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The Dance of the Sexes: The Evite said come to a dance-filled experiment – “SEE- Sexual Energy Escape.”
Sixty people showed up to a makeshift SanRafael ballroom in a funky warehouse space to participate in the dance event. Thirty men and thirty women, all 40 to 50-something, by invitation only – facilitated by dancer, Rainbea Kanyon.
How do you begin the Beguine?
Our host, a barefoot Amazon with a wild halo of blonde frizzy hair, wore a simple muslin chemise over an incredible muscular and toned body. As floods of people arrived and checked coats, we were told: no talking, remove our shoes, hydrate continually and commence dancing. C’est fini.
May I have this dance?
Start dancing? In a bizarre turn of events, the men gravitated to one side – women on another. The music was a mélange– Keith Jarrett segued into the Rolling Stones, Satie, and Sinatra, blended into Techno followed by a slice of Lawrence Welk then hip-hop. Chubby Checker’s “Let’s Twist Again” lit up the room everyone went wild and laughed. Michael Jackson hits then Joan Jett & The Black Hearts sang “I Love Rock & Roll” followed by “Spirit In The Sky” – Norman Greenbaum. There was never a moment of silence.Nor could you anticipate the eclectic music.
And the fans go wild
The music changed and became more drum oriented, the men naturally started in what looked like war dances, rain dances, conga lines, stomping, doing a kind of Samoan chest thumping, with big, bold gestures.
As music became more animated – loud drums pulsing and hypnotic- first two- then 10 men began crawling- on- their -bellies- like reptillies – two men shoulder to shoulder, forming a snake were slithering around the dance floor. Laughing….We women were amused and confused. How did this cadre of men – total strangers – end up bonding and slithering?
Girls just want to have fun
Women wafted, soft shoed, floated, were jazzy, sexy and did salsa, hula and rhumba; we did a whole lot of swaying, shimmy and shimmer. Men jumped, stomped, pranced, and war danced, several tried break dancing.
The men were stealing the show.
The music changed, again, and the men were high energy, brio, bravado, and gusto. As a rule, the women were tripping the light fantastic, doing a bit of ballet, belly dancing, jete, some threw in a little yoga, a dash of Pilates, even some Jazzercise reared its ugly head. Rainbeau encouraged, inspired, motivated, and vitalized the group.
Everyone appeared to be having fun – the men, on the other side, appeared to be having way more fun.
Men and women on the dance floor of life – so much more fun heart to heart and holding hands.
What is the Secret to happiness? Low Expectations?
Humorist Dave Barry said: “What women want: To be loved, to be listened to, to be desired, to be respected, to be needed, to be trusted, and sometimes, just to be held. What men want: Tickets to the World Series.
Tess, 39-perpetually, just got hired in the Housewares department at Macy’s.
She is the self proclaimed ‘Blender Babe’ of the Kitchenware department. Her itsy-bitsy miniscule paycheck is overshadowed by the promise of ‘Benefits.” In eight- weeks, Tess will be granted a decent Health /Benefits package. Hey, the mantra these days is, “It’s all about the benefits, friend.”
During the Human Resources Hustle orientation, Tess said the well rehearsed, fast-talking, instructor explained that benefits were just like dating. Go figure. She continued, “For two-months we check you out. We watch you and we see how you perform; if you show up on time, if you are loyal and passionate.
If you do as you promise, we will be your friends, with benefits. If you don’t call, don’t show up, fool around, cheat, lie or steal, we withhold benefits and, Honey, you are history!” Buh–bye…
This was a metaphor Tess readily “Got” and she marveled how Romance and Retail mirrored one another.
Tess is all about benefits. And shopping around…shop, shop, shop around…
Friends, we all know about brand loyalty, performing well, and integrity.
My friend with benefits, Tess, is ready to blend. Her new mantra- date early, date often – make friends.
Page Larkin’s First Date Tips:
1. Always meet in a public, well-lighted place. Never, ever, meet in your home.
2. Let a friend know where you’re going; also provide the other person’s full name. No, you can’t be too careful.
3. Have your friend call you 15-minutes into the date. This can also be an ‘escape’ if the date if isn’t going well.
4. Meeting for a glass of wine? One glass should be your limit. Be sober and smart.
5. Always: ‘Google’ the guy or gal. Check them out on Facebook and Linkedn.
That being said, get out there and explore your options. Have fun. Chances are: all is well – Just be careful out there.
“What would life be if we had no courage to attempt anything?” Vincent van Gogh